An ending and a new beginning, both of which can be difficult. With each new beginning there is loss and in the case of 2021 and 2020 the losses are tangible and can feel insurmountable. Loss of freedom, loss of a job, loss of health, loss of continuity, loss of a relationship and hardest of all, the loss of a loved one. We may not feel like celebrating with these losses permeating our thoughts and at this time of year we can feel a sense of emptiness as if one can not quite put a name to it. As the new year dawns it can be useful to put pen to paper and think about all that has happened in the last year as a way of letting go and saying ‘goodbye 2021’, reflecting on the positives and embracing the new year ahead. My list might look something like this:
Covid – saying goodbye to a challenging year and all the limitations that came with it
Loss – Saying good bye to loved ones but reflecting on the joy they brought
Cancellations – holidays, birthdays, parties, family Christmas celebrations
Diets; they don’t work and cause so much stress
‘To do’ lists
Reflect on what 2021 gave you;
More time to sit with yourself and be present
More time to spend with people that matter
More time to be creative
More time to exercise, cook and eat healthier meals
More time to spend in nature
More time to develop relationships
Less time on the commuter wheel
New beginnings; new job, new home, new relationship, new life, new pet, spending time with people that matter.
Letting go of perfection; its exhausting! Practice just being you.
Practicing gratitude; being grateful for every small positive interaction as you go about your day.
Reflecting on relationships or things that no longer serve you and letting them go..
Authenticity: don’t be afraid to feel your feelings and express what’s in your heart and mind.
Vulnerability: daring to be vulnerable. Taking chances, making the first move, confiding in others.
Saying ‘No’; easy to say but very difficult to do for many. Start with small steps.
‘To do’ lists: Instead try ‘Ta da’ lists. Write a list of every small thing you accomplished today
If you need help letting go of 2021 and embracing 2022 The Lighthouse Counselling Partnership can help. Call today and speak to one of our counsellors.